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Holey Places

She slipped quietly into the pew next to me as the congregation was singing. I gave her a hug and I could feel it. She was just hanging on. The feeling got stronger and I started to pray. “Lord, fill the hole in my friend’s heart.” This dear friend had just lost her hubby of 55 years in a sudden and unexpected manner. This was her first day in church since we celebrated his life a week ago and, as she cried, she acknowledged that this first trip to church was much harder than she thought it would be. They did everything together…truly experienced life together… and I can only imagine that every place and memory from here forward will hold an abundance of joy intermingled with the painful absence of her soul-mate.

There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
   a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
   a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
     a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

I always tell my kids that death is a part of life. During this past week, this has never been more obvious and glaring. There were 4 funerals at our church in one week and then I got a call about one more. A friend lost his 2 year old and the funeral was at my parent’s church on Saturday. All of this loss…all different ages and different circumstances. I know that God has appointed a time for each of us and thankfully all of these folks have a relationship with Christ. While Heaven awaits them and we are joyful for that fact, the gaping holes left in the lives of those left behind during this time of mourning are deep.

For my friend, I know she is so grateful for the time that she and her dear hubby had together and I know that she takes comfort that he is in Heaven viewing the stars from a perspective he could have never dreamed of here on this earth. Oh, but the holey places. The Lord knit these two together and while they will always be knit tightly, his physical absence is painful.

So today, I simply ask that you pray for people experiencing loss. Whether it be by death or divorce, expected or unexpected, young or old, temporary or permanent…all forms of loss. Please pray that they all take time to mourn and weep so in the future they can mend and heal and even laugh and dance. Pray that the Lord will send someone to cry with them as well as encourage them. Pray for comfort. Most of all, pray that the Lord Himself will fill the holey places in each heart so they may be whole in Him.


Give Thanks

Thanksgiving! It’s not just a turkey, family, pilgrims, corn and pumpkin pie…it’s an action. To GIVE thanks.

At night, when I tuck the kids in, I always ask each one “What are you thankful for today?”. My son is faithful with his answer…”For YOU, Mom!”. Then I remind him, “What, specific to this day, are you thankful for?”. There was a night last week when he was having a difficult time thinking of something. I asked him to look around his room and just tell me what he sees. He began to list the items that he saw….toys, pictures, books, a bunk bed, his favorite stuffed giraffe….just things. Then I asked him to close his eyes and tell me about some things that weren’t in his room that he was thankful for. The list got much bigger and more broad. Now, we were on the right track! Sometimes he has to put a conscious effort in to it, but there is no end to that list of reasons to be thankful.

David is one of those men that I really identify with. No, I am not a king…have never tended sheep or wrestled bear (though my daughter has the qualities of both at times)….I have never picked up a sling shot or fought in a great battle. Those are all things we hear about in the stories we are taught as kids. But, reading about David as an adult is a very different experience for me. He was a man after God’s own heart, but still a man. He pursued God, but fell short sometimes. He made mistakes, fell to errors in judgement, lost a child, was pursued, repented and corrected his course time and again….and yet, laced through the pages of Psalms there are countless passages of thanks and praise.

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever! Psalm 100:5, 106:1, 107:1, 118:1 and again in Psalm 136:1

But in case you missed it…. Give Thanks to the God of gods; His love endures forever. Give thanks to the Lord of lords; His love endures forever. Psalm 136:2-3

In Psalm 136, David even gives some examples of what to be thankful for…creation, deliverance from captivity,and  food to every creature. He was giving thanks for things that happened well before his time on earth, and it just drives home that point for me that there is always something to be thankful for…past, present and future. There are other verses about being thankful and giving thanks in the Bible that are favorites too.

In every thing give thanks; for this is the will of Christ Jesus concerning you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

And whatever you do, whether in word or in deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:17

This past Saturday, I received two Precious Feet pins- one from each of my sisters. It was a perfect and timely reminder of two of the unseen blessings in my life. I am thankful for so much–and praise the Lord for sisters.

Four years ago, Thanksgiving Day was the due date I was given for a baby to be born into our little family. We never had the pleasure of meeting that child, but my thoughts linger on that little one around the Thanksgiving holiday. Into every life a little rain must fall….and after that rain, there is potential for amazing growth. If we had not incurred that loss, our daughter would not be batting her beautiful blue eyes at us every morning. Even in the face of loss- I can give thanks.