There are times when I feel like we are too hard on our kids. We need to lighten up. It’s a tough balance sometimes between raising them in the way they should go (Proverbs 22:6), not exacerbating your children and bringing them up in the name of the Lord (Eph 6:4) ….and letting go long enough to get goofy and silly. I don’t want to steal their joy, but I want them to have TRUE joy.
Last night, we had a little chat with our son about respect. Using the Parenting with Scripture: A topical guide for teachable moments (by Kara Durbin…if you don’t have it, GET IT!) we read the definition of the word “respect” and read some scripture about respect for parents, elders and those in authority. During that conversation, my husband acknowledged that he had messed up in the past and was trying to do his best to teach our son to not make the same mistakes. This opened up a pretty open, candid dialog between father and son that may not have otherwise happened. Though it was a serious topic, a connection was made. It was a pretty cool way to end the evening.
Then, this morning it was “take flowers to your teacher day” at my son’s school. We went out to the yard only to find that his sister had plucked every single bloom while we were outside this weekend. I went inside and whipped up some tissue paper flowers- complete with colored popsicle stick stems. I placed the flowers in a recycled water bottle with some colored marbles and WHALA! A bouquet that he was proud to give his teacher emerged. “Mom, you’re the best!” Ahhh. A little affirmation.
These seemingly unrelated things give my heart wings! I won’t try to explain why- but if you are a parent, you may surmise for yourself.
9 And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, 10 so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, 11 filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.
I prayed this verse over both of our kids last night, and then again this morning. This is my deep desire for them. I always pray that we will be able to teach them enough…love them enough…share with them enough- so that when God speaks to them they will recognize His voice. There are constant doubts…”am I doing enough?”, “what am I missing?”…”am I too hard on them?”…”not hard enough?”…”consistent?”…but then the moments when I can see it all ‘click’ in their little heads. A twinkle in the eye. The ‘a-ha’ moment. The truth is…I want their love to grow more and more as they learn and understand more. I want them to be able to tell right from wrong, what is good and what is best. I want them to be pure and blameless filled with all of the fruits of righteousness: love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. I want them to know the Lord.
My children are such a blessing. I pray that I will be a blessing to them as well.
Have you counted your blessings today?
594. helping the kids plant seeds that will soon become tomatoes, daisies and other beautiful gifts from God
596. He orders my steps
598. An awesome silly hat, made by my awesome silly girl
599. She wants ALL of us at the breakfast table before Daddy leaves for work
600. productivity staining the table, deck, painting the trim all in one day.
601. and sunshine for the endeavor
603. a steam cleaning oven
604. Women Helping Women- a power(ful) lunch
605. dinner and a movie with my family
606. …in the comfort of our home
607. a quiet night
608. Catching up with “Weema”- she has been for many years and continues to be a blessing.
610. a clean house (even if it’s just momentary)
611. the smell of something baking
612. a “no makeup” kind of day
613. a feeling that I am (almost) comfortable in my own skin
614. TWO quiet times with the Lord in one glorious day!
615. a truly serene feeling in our home
616. family board game night
617. she sing “Higher Ground” while laying in bed waiting for sleep to come
618. Answered prayer…again.
619, the smile and excitement on his face (BW) while learning.
620. Giving the gift of “efficiency” which results in more family time for a special couple.
621. Our vow renewal anniversary- celebrating the strength of a cord of three strands
622. working in the garden alongside my parents- memories of childhood
623. seeing Dad riding the mower (a sight not seen for 13 yrs)…and looking so content
624. And he weeded my flower bed
625. Paper flowers- the gift that keeps on giving
627. Sowing seeds that will nourish the body (Praise the Lord for seed bearing plants and herbs)
628. spots of blue in a gray sky
629. A date with my son…complete with sailboat races