A little argan oil, a few squirts of de-tangler and a lot of brushing and brushing. Being very careful not to pull the roots, I brushed one small section at a time to get her ready for a very important party. You see, Princess Aurora has a head of very thick hair and every wavy lock had to be in place for the tea party. I learned a few things tonight…. that my hair products work on the Disney Princesses quite well, that there is enough room at the tea party table for ten princesses, two fairies and one prince, and most importantly- that I need to slow down more often to have moments like this with her.
As I said last week, this year is going to be a time when I really need to get a clear picture of my role in God’s eyes as a wife, mother and Christian. Children are excellent mirrors and sometimes the mirror reflects good character and confirms that you, as a parent, are on the right track. Yet, other times, that mirror can reflect some ugly shortcomings. I had asked her to do something twice yesterday and both times she responded with “in a minute” or “after I do this” and I knew immediately that she was learning this bad habit from me. Yikes. Do I sound like that? Yes. I do. So the first thing that God has pointed out to me so far this year is that I need to slow down and enjoy more simple moments with my kids. It’s tough to feel the pull in so many directions when there’s a home to run (for those who work while balancing your homes and families- kudos! I don’t know how you do it.); when there are activities at church, school and with sports; when dinner needs to be made and the house hasn’t been cleaned yet. The fact of the matter is, that while all of these are important- they are not eternally important. Yes, I want to strive to be that Proverbs 31 woman. But, I need to start….and then build. Teaching my kids Christian values, sharing the love of God and giving them the love and attention they need, desire and deserve is far more important than my “to-do” list- and consciously I know that. But subconsciously, they seem to get lost in the shuffle when it comes to one-on-one time and that needs to change. As the kids ask me for my time- whether it’s for video games, dolls, if they want to do my hair (yes, THEY), a bike ride in the bitter cold, or even a snuggle- I need to be quick and conscious to ask myself that question. “Is what I am doing right now going to matter tonight, tomorrow, next week or in the years to come? Or should I stop what I am doing and come back to it?” I suspect that our home may be a little more untidy, and the dishes may have to sit until after bedtime – but, our children will be much happier and so will I.
Today, our son had his first Upward basketball game- with my hubby as the coach. We cleaned the house as a team and spent the remainder of our day with friends. Our kids played with their kids while we played cards (I love Phase 10!). We ended the day with a princess tea party. And I am 100% sure that THIS is the day which the Lord has made. I am rejoicing….I am glad for it. (Paraphrase of Psalm 118:24)
Today, I learned the eternal importance of PLAY.
Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
The first great gift we can bestow on others is a good example. – Thomas Morell
There is a book that I have included in the Book Nook, but I want to mention again. “The Power of a Positive Mom” by Karol Ladd is a wonderful, biblical wealth of knowledge on motherhood. It covers everything from the power of prayer for our children, relationship with hubby and the powerful influence mothers have- to mentoring other moms, developing support systems, “the ladies pity-party” and living by THE book. This book is structured to be used as a Bible study, as a devotional, or just as a great read. It is complete with challenges, ideas for prayer and meditation and questions for group sessions. I love this book and have been reading it intermittently. I am going to commit to a cover to cover read this year.